[MUST READ] Mistakes Most Ladies make

1.Believing a guy will change for you

2.Insisting on a guy who clearly doesn't give a crap about you

3.Playing hard to get for entirely too long.. Till you're way past your past your sell by date!

4.Falling for a bad boy.. And putting the good guys in the "friend zone"

5.Thinking every guy is like your Ex

Lagos residents spend N1b monthly for merriment & entertainment

You know what they say, aint no party like a Lagos party. And we are really spending the dough, to the tune of N1billion every month, according to the Lagos State government.

Commissioner for Local Government and Chieftaincy Affairs, Mr. Ademorin Kuye said made this known yesterday. He said: 

“Over N1billion is spent monthly in Lagos state on entertainment and parties, we have the records to confirm this and these people, how many of them pay tax? The money goes into drinks, wine, food, aso-ebi and all of that and when they spend all of this money; they do not want to pay anything to the government”

"This justified the reason why local Governments demand that anyone organising events in the state must pay the Merriment Tax.”

 “There is merriment tax in that constitution, its part of the rate Local Governments can collect. We have not fully utilised the benefit of the entertainment industry in this state”.

So basically, the state government is considering the introduction of merriment/party tax? How is that even going to work? Please share your thoughts on this...

source: LIB

Top 9 Things A Woman Should Never Tell A Man

There are a number of things that you should never tell a man if you would like to have a good dating relationship with him. Let us take a look at them so that you can avoid them.

• 1. Being the first to say "I love you." You may say this as a way of making him say that he loves you too, but you should not try to push him to say something he is not yet prepared for. You will remain in an awkward position when he does not do it.
• 2. If he promised to call but didn't, don't confront him and ask why he did not call. You will be basically accusing him of not caring for you, and it is more likely that you will make him turn defensive.
• 3. When you go out on a date, do not press him to tell you when you should expect to see him once more. If he is really interested, he will get in touch. On the other hand, if he has no interest, then you should not keep your life on hold for him.
• 4. In case he does not keep his promise to see you, you should not ask him where he had been. The hidden question is really whether he was out with another girl, which will just show your fear and insecurity.
• 5. In case he had gone out with another woman, you will simply put both of you in an uncomfortable position when you ask him whether he went to bed with her. Even if he did, he is not doing it now.
• 6. Whether you have just started going out with a guy or you have dated for some time, do not press him with the question as to where your relationship is going. If the relationship is promising, you will simply know this from his actions.
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• 7. If you have something you would like to discuss with him, bring it up casually at an appropriate time. When you tell him that you would like to have a talk, he will automatically become defensive as he does not expect the conversation to be enjoyable. You just need to choose your time well.
• 8. However much he has hurt you, going around stating how you have him won't solve the issue. In fact, when you maintain your cool even during a breakup, you will win his admiration. But throwing temper tantrums will only push him further away from you.
• 9. In case you suspect that he has been up to no good, telling him that you don't trust him won't make him change. Instead, he will just get more careful, and you won't be able to get the much needed evidence.

10 Signs You Are Not In Love With Your Partner

 

Are you in a relationship? Do you love your man? Here are a few things that show that you’re just playing around:

1. Little things annoy you If you always get unnecessarily agitated about a shirt he wears or some extra weight he gained or the way he sings in the car, then you don’t love him. When you really love someone, those things are funny, or at the very least tolerable. But if there’s no real connection there, the little flaws irritate you.

2. You don’t talk and you don’t care If you don’t hear from him for two days, and you’re not bothered, then there’s a serious problem. Wanting to talk to your man, is a sure sign of true love. If you couldn’t care less, then you’re not in love.

 3. You’re constantly comparing your relationship to others When you’re really in love, you don’t care what everyone else is doing. You’re happy with what you have. Those differences in your relationship don’t feel like a problem. But, when you know you’re not meant to be with a guy, you constantly try to find something wrong with your relationship.

4. When going out, you still dress with other men in mind. If you’re daydreaming about meeting handsome guys and dressing with that goal in mind, it means you wish you were single. That shows that you’re not really committed to your man.






 5. He’s not the one you run to When you’re upset about something, crying to your man seems like the obvious thing to do. But if you never confide in your guy, then you don’t really care about him. If you really wanted to be close, he’d be the one you go to when you need a sympathetic ear.

 6. The image of you two standing at the altar gives you anxiety If you can’t picture the two of you gazing into each other’s eyes happily on your wedding day, then you’re not meant to be. If you don’t smile at the thought of being his wife, then you’re just playing around.

 7. You’re managing If there are serious issues militating against your relationship that you know can’t be resolved but you’re still seeing the guy, then it’s obviously a dead end. If he’s of a different religion from you and you know you can only marry a man of the same religion, then you’re going nowhere. You’re only still with him because you’re avoiding the question: what next?

8.You’re disrespectful to each other If you regularly insult your man, even in front of others, it’s a sign that you don’t really care about him. You’re lashing out at him because you know being with him is a waste of time.

 9. You feel a little guilty around his family Deep down you know you won’t be around forever, and they’re expecting you to be a daughter-in-law and the mother of their grandchildren someday. When you’re around the family of a man you don’t want to be with, it’s hard to suppress the guilt.

 10. You’re still not sure if you like him Basically, you opened this article! That’s not a good sign. When you know you’re serious about someone, you just know.

Appreciate The Women [Article]

 The enigma that characterized her person glows the mind of the seeker. Giving to her strength, the elephant could be a light weight compared to her inner blow. The glory that surrounds her gets the WISE to think, trying to discern the purity emanating from such a masterpiece of creation. The very believe that she controls whatever she desires to, is not far fetched because her cause will always be attended to by her Creator. Equipped with the greatest delicacy of intuitive perception, she easily swings herself to the purity of luminous heights. Light streams from her. Her entire physical nature will continually get the blind to see and the lame to walk. She is primarily responsible for all her proceeds. She protects her own. Her prowess to influence eludes the ordinary mind. There is nothing upon which her influence cannot absolutely be brought to bear; if she stands in that place where her inherent womanly abilities fully unfold to blossom.
What is perceived to be her weakness turned to be her strength. And it is only the genuine womanliness that silently educate the man. Her flesh sends the man craving for more. The unseen cord that binds the eye of man and the breast of her is a case study. Nature has dealt so much blow to man. Her wealth of influence moves the papals and the saints alike to at least, give her a fair trail even when she errs. The joy of motherhood is as result of genuine woman. It is ridiculous to use the expression “weak woman”, for woman is psychically stronger than man.

However, even when she remains the pinnacle of pro-creation, her dirt has changed the world. The woman of today has successfully trample her power and mission, she has blindly overlook them, and has destroy her sacred gifts from within. Instead of being an up-building influence, she brought about disintegration, thus being the most poisonous element in creation. Consequently dragging man and children alike to the very best-hell in creation. King Solomon undoubtedly warn against everything but lay keen emphasis of the woman. Her venoms and claws. Her cunning nature and her lust. Where does one still find in the woman of today, the genuine feeling of shame which is the most real expression of her true self. The noble woman. Its not weakness. The woman of today is ashamed to wear a long dress if fashion decrees a short one. She is ashamed to genuinely appear real with no patches and foundations on her face. She must look good though but that sincerity of self is long lost in her. And she is not ashamed to expose her ass and breast to the glances of all even more to their hands. Without hesitation, she will uncover and give more of it to the awaiting dogs in trousers. This is no exaggeration. Her hair is her glory. Today its an apparatus for scientific
discovery. Her hands are a blessing to caress but the fear of her nails is the beginning of wisdom. Her
height can be 5ft but her shoes will insinuate another figure. Her simplicity is lost. These shabby nature of hers has made it difficult for real men to discern the TRUE woman. Only God will help man.

She has taken her home to be a substitute. A second place to be. Her body and profession(if any) is her first. The unending struggle for recognition has driven her out of the home. The man now is the chef, the children just turned to bar-tenders. Her quest for liberation is an idea to appreciate but she is losing a very distinct part of her to a low cause. Its a pity. These cravings has continually sink her instead. If she can understand this and return to her place, the world would be at peace again. The family will be more better. And her offspring will be more reasonable and productive, morally, to the society. Let her take over the kitchen, let her drive the kids to school. Let her love the man. Let her love herself. Let her light shine to illuminate the darken places.

Let her attend to the society with passion and love, forgetting personal gains. Can she still kiss her man on the streets? To her, its an insult. Let that sincere attitude of her return. Let her love saturate because hers is better. Let her fight for her home. Let her embrace her man. Let her give attention to her ward. Let her see reasons to be at home before the man.

In like manner, let the man appreciate her. Let man love her. She is weak but her strength is in man. Let man give her attention, she desires that a lot. Let man bless her with items, she loves that a lot. Let man tell her stories, she adore that. Let man cuddle her, she cherish it more. Let the man dry her tears with his kiss. Tell her things, positive things, that will bring out the best in her. Her treasures are hidden, she need a hand see it, be that man. Let her desires not be far fetched from you. Let her voice be heard. Let her place be given to her. Her smile is a glory from within. Adore her.

Never abuse her. Never curse her, if you do, you are insulting creation. Wash her feet. Give her that good-night kiss. In all this and more, she will change to be that WOMAN man desire. Above all, let the WOMAN of TODAY find her place in GOD for she transcends more in this area than the MAN. Give attention to these, they all shape the TRUE WOMAN.
GOD bless the WOMAN.

 by Chiemezie Anyaeji Ugochukwu

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7 Basic Steps To Successfully Achieving Your Goals

Many of us have goals and year after year we sit and wait for the right time to start taking action on them. The list gets longer and longer and before we know it we are just left with a bunch of empty promises we have made to ourselves only to leave us frustrated. I want to say that you are not alone. According to research 90% of Americans undergo stress and depression as a result of their lack of discipline to achieve their goals. Among these goals, at the top of the list are, weight loss, financial stability, marriage, education and spirituality.
Here are 7 Basic Steps To Successfully Achieving Your Goals

1. You must have a definite major purpose-this is knowing ultimately what you want to achieve.

2. Prioritize your overwhelming list of goals. The ones most important should be at the top of your list. Give yourself a chance and stop beating up yourself about what you did not do and get committed to what you know you could do!

3. Devise an action map! Successful people plan their route. If you do not know what your destination is you may begin to get frustrated and end up quitting. I know you don’t like going back to square one so let’s do this one right!
Vision boards seem to be the trend and can give you a constant view or reminder of what goals you desire to achieve.

4. Call on your support network! Do not go it alone because it will get exhausting and that will causing you to quit as well.

5. Remove negative emotional barriers or doubts or at least learn to handle them better. These are those negative thoughts you tell yourself about your ability to actually achieve your goals.

6. Take Real ACTION! Take real action if you want to achieve desired goals and new, yet exciting, possibilities! The time you have is now because tomorrow is not guaranteed! Get out of thinking in your head and take some action towards reaching your goals if you truly desire change to take place.

7. Visualize! Routinely become the person you desire to be. Imagine that you are their already and you are working from you achieved goal.
It’s never really too late to start achieving your goals but you have to be committed to the process if you want to begin seeing progress.

5 Questions To Ask Before You Say ‘I Do’

 

You have been with your beau for awhile now. You are exclusive, boyfriend and girlfriend, you are known as a couple in your social circle and you might even live together. And all seems copasetic. However, society favors marriage

over just being a couple which is why living together without marriage has the old nickname of ‘living in sin‘. So how do you know if you are meant to be a happily unwed person forever or if it’s time for you to head to the altar? Here are some things to consider when trying to make that decision….

1. Do you personally believe in matrimony? Deep down before you became all modern, did you believe in matrimony and like the idea of marriage? If so, maybe it’s time to get back to your roots and take the plunge.

2. Will matrimony make you feel safer and more secure in your relationship? After all, marriage is more permanent than just being in a relationship. As easy as it is to get a divorce these days, it still requires some effort to get one. You can’t just curse each other out and never speak again like you can if you are in a relationship without the legalities.

3. Is there a reason why you are ‘living in sin’ at the moment? Is it because that was the next step in your relationship trajectory and marriage is next and you have just been lazy, or is it because this is what you and your partner decided was right for both of you? When you ask this question, make sure that the answer is coming from yourself , not your partner.

4. Have you refrained from taking the plunge into matrimony because you are a commitment phobe and marriage seems so much more permanent than cohabitation? Be honest with yourself about this and if you are just scared sh**less about taking that next step, talk to your partner or to a professional about your fears and maybe you can work through them.

5. Have you hesitated about walking down the aisle out of lack of desire to plan a wedding? If this is the case and you actually would like to be married, go ahead and elope or just do the ceremony in front of a justice of the peace. Getting married is about the love you have for each other, not the party.